The Meaning of Life is To Be Alive and Follow The Feeling of Happiness

Jul 15, 2013 by

happiness

 

Happy Monday my Lovies!

This week I would like to share some more of my thoughts with you, or another Talkchology as I call it.  I always love to start the beginning of each day with a positive quote, or a story or even a video.  Every morning when I wake-up I enjoy reading something that will light up my fire so to speak for the rest of the day.  Today I would like to share another quote with you guys, I shared it on my personal Facebook the other day:

The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.

~Alan Watts

There is only one thing I would like to add to this quote: The meaning of life is to follow a feeling of happiness and do what brings you that feeling.

When I was much younger I always felt stuck in life, I always felt as I was going to be late somewhere because everyone around me kept telling me I need to become something so I can be a real person in society, to be worth something. Somehow I’ve always resisted that idea, because it made me feel trapped which in turn made me feel more worthless. I was scared and living in fear of what if I never find that something, something I’m supposed to be doing?  When I was little, I was a figure skater, not because I wanted to do it, but because I wanted to make my grandmother happy, but to be honest I absolutely hated it. Till this day my grandma ( who I love dearly ) tries to make me feel guilty about quitting skating, and before I used to, but now I know that it was the right choice for me to quit and I’m happy I did.

Through younger years of my life, I was always in a rush to find what it is I need to do to be worthy of being alive, because I felt the pressure from others such as my family and people around me in general. And as the years went by, I felt more and more trapped and depressed because time was ticking and I wasn’t.

Before, if I didn’t stay busy and constantly kept my self occupied I felt very guilty, I felt like I need to fulfill some kind of purpose and if I take a day off or two, the guilt didn’t let me sleep at night. Living this way was a complete nightmare, it was a feeling of constantly going agains the currant. But when we flow against the currant of our inner desires, wants and real needs ( not what others need or want us to do ) we become less and less happy, and we begin to simply exist instead of living our life.

Ever since I can remember, I’ve always had a problem with structure, such as structure of rules in society, structure of education, structure of politics, structure of how most people think, structure in relationships etc. I used to feel like a stranger in this world, because I didn’t have the same structures in my understanding of things, but what made things change for me is that I finally accepted that I don’t need to be doing what everyone else is doing because I don’t need anyones approval but my own. I knew I’ve finally discovered the meaning of life, once I stopped looking for the meaning, once I stopped rushing to keep up, once I simply allowed my self to do what made me happy and what feels right.

This is how I live my life now and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been:

  • If I feel like laying on the couch all day – I do so without feeling guilty.
  • If I feel like eating a cake – I do so without feeling guilty.
  • If I feel like tomorrow I’m going to want to change my profession and all of a sudden want to become a chef, singer or a hula dancer – I will go after that dream and make it a reality, because I know I can do anything I put my mind to.
  • I will do what ever at that specific moment I feel like I need to do to be happy, because that is the true meaning of life. We are here to do what we love, get inspired by our moment’s passion and live in complete awareness of that moment. The meaning is what you make of it! So, don’t let anyone tell you what it is you need to do, don’t try to make others happy by sacrificing your own well being, because at the end of the day it is you who is in control of your own destiny.

 

Have a beautiful week my Lovies,

Hugs,

Tati

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  • Gerri Lee Schafer

    hello sweety, long time no post…….lol…will read in the morning, keep up the hard work

    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Tatianna

      First???

  • Gerri Lee Schafer

    ok, quick read……..structure and rules i take as a general guide line that i can choose to follow or not, the only person I ever have to make happy is me…………bottom line………….now I don’t try to make other people unhappy, but I’ve always put my own mental health first , if I’m not happy, I can’t effect the people around around me in a positive fashion …………now with this kind of mental fortitude it has effected my social life, most people want to be around “yes” people, that will support without thought and abandon their own beliefs just to make that other person feel good…………….when you don’t play this game, your friend list gets pretty darn short, but the friends you do have are for life, because they too believe that it is a live and let live world, there are no right and wrong answers, just what works for each individual person………….peace …………. :))

    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Tatianna

      Yep, I agree!

      I really love your outlook on life, I always read the stuff you post on Facebook and I also love your sense of humor!

      • Gerri Lee Schafer

        lol………..I’m sure we would get along very well, if you ever want to come to the great white north and ski………….there’s a place for you and Migel (spelling? ) of course you do have to wait until winter for that :)) right now it is super hot out, so lots of laying in the shade enjoying a nice beer

    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Lv Girlie

      So true…you’ve hit the nail on it head…ones mental health comes first.

  • http://www.presing.mk/ Katerina

    Beautiful post as always. I believe I have progressed a lot when it comes to listening to other people and following a pattern in life. I’m not married but I plan to have a family of my own and I will definitely need to break a lot of the stupid rules that women “need” to follow after they become somebody’s wife! – yes, we still have them in my country.
    I am still having guilt issues when it comes to being fit. I still over train some times and I over eat after depriving myself from some kind of food that I love to eat. But now, I am aware of this and that is a huge difference for me. I accept myself a lot more and I know that this is just the beginning of the journey.
    I am currently sick again and I plan to do only yoga for a while. I don’t think I’ll be able to do your latest split routines any time soon, but I can do them with beginner modifications and not feel guilty about it ;)

    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Tatianna

      You know, when we become aware of the problem, it no longer has the power over us :)

      As long as you do something that makes you feel good and healthy, even if you can’t do my routines all the way, you can definitely modify :)

  • Daria

    zolotie slova, Tatuwa. Tak jal’. 4to mnogie zabili p tom, 4to hotyzt sami i ve4no toropyat’sya v poruve sdelat’ to 4to nado ne im samim! Spasibo za postoyannuy motivaciu! tu umnica) p.s. ya na Ukraine skoro edu otdihat’ v sosnoviy les i ozera, i uje prosto me4tay ob sliyanii misley i 4uvstv, tak kak gorod izryadno nadoel. a gde vu s mujem otdihat’ lubite?)

    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Tatianna

      Mi s mugem obichno lubim bit na prirode, na more ili gde nibud v lesu. Mi ochen chasto ezdim na Cocoa Beach ili Playa Linda beach.

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    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Tatianna

      Otlichnij kommentarij, polnostiu soglasna!

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    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Tatianna

      Da, samoe glavnoe eto sledovat svoej radosti i bit schastlivoj, vse ostalnoe samo vstanet na mesto!

  • Lili Suke

    Thank you Tati for these posts. I feel since i know you, i exercise your routines and read your talks and think about them, my life has approved a lot and i am more and more happy:-) thank you

    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Tatianna

      Hugs :)

  • Marie- T. Heigl

    I agree 100%! Just some days ago I made a decision which I do not regret now. Btw, did you read my last comment? ^_^

    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Tatianna

      Hey sweetie, no I haven’t read it. Sometimes comments get lost and I don’t get to read all of them.

  • Karen O

    Today I woke up and thought I would read some positive articles and this one shows up…thank you so much, Tati x

    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Tatianna

      I’m happy to spread positivity :)

  • saandy99

    I really needed to read this. I feel the same way that you used to feel! Thank-you for the post. My father has been trying to guide me towards a medical career for years. I think I could go for it since I love teeth and helping people, but it’s not really my passion. I’m a huge fan of writing and I must say that your writing is incredible! Your words always come from your heart! I have a few questions:

    How does practicality fit with following your dreams? Practicality would dictate that one must choose the path that everyone else is choosing. The path of money, financial security, perks, etc.. But is it possible to completely follow your dreams without following the practical choice? I would love to be a writer, but practically speaking I would struggle for a long time and my books may not sell well to cover my financial needs.

    I feel if the premise of financial security were to be abandoned by job seekers, then more people would be happier. Could you completely abandon the flow that society dictates to you? Because society is currently dictating that financial health is more important than following your dreams. High Unemployment, higher taxes, doubts over America’s financial security, increased inflation, and previously lucrative careers slumping are different waves drifting people towards the flow of money such as my father.

    I’ve been thinking that perhaps I could go for the medical field and still have time to write. I’ve been thinking about become a dentist since that would allow me for more time to dedicate to writing. That way I could satisfy my dad and myself. But that would take me 6-7 years out of writing.

    But like you said, you feel stifled. I’ve never been a fan of following the structures laid down by society. I feel that would be compromising my beliefs in order to satisfy my parents who largely follow the flow. My father’s greatest dream is to see me a doctor. But I would rather see myself as a procrastinating dreamer:)

    Thanks for reading all of this! Have a wonderful day!

    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Lv Girlie

      What does financial success means to you personally, not your parents or society’s definition. Just because a person make a lot of money does not mean they’re financially secure.

      • saandy99

        Personally speaking, financial success means knowing that I have impacted someone else’s life in a positive way. It means that I will be able to pay my bills and have basic necessities. It means loving your life and your job. I’d also like to have very little stress levels since stress is the silent killer of so many people.

        I totally agree! It seems that the more money one may have always leads to problems. Some of the happiest people I have ever met were this old couple in Oklahoma. They were dirt poor, had a struggling farm, but still managed to be genuinely happy to be alive. They were happy with what they had, and never complained about wanting more like everyone does.

    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Tatianna

      Hello darling,

      I would LOVE to answer your questions, I think I have a very very good answers for them. But I have even better idea, I will write a blog post about it this Monday, because I think it would benefit a lot of people. So, I’m going to copy your question, and post it into the article. Because I have so much to say about that.

      Edit:

      Just finished writing it, whoa, it’s going to be a long post! Will post it this Monday.

      • saandy99

        I look forward to read the post! Thank you so much!

  • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Lv Girlie

    Letting go of other peoples expectation of you is a hard one to break. I thought I did that a long time ago when I did a complete change of life and career path. I just found out with my recent life change (quitting a very well paying job) that I still have residues of caring about what other people in my life thinks of my personal choice. So, this past weekend I decided I’m at peace with my decision…anyone else having issues with it, needs to deal with the issues on their own…it is theirs alone.

    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Tatianna

      I used to be like that too, but that was such a long time ago. I’ve realized that I’ve completely let go of what others thought of my choices when I had a personal talk with my grandma few months ago, she was trying to tell me how things should be or which things are wrong in my life, then she was comparing me others and whole bunch of other things. These kinds of conversations used to absolutely bring the devil in me, but not anymore, I just quietly sat there with complete acceptance of her and her ideas of life, without trying to argue or judge, and the next thing I thought was, wow I absolutely love my life, my choices and what I do or don’t do in life, and then it hit me that the only thing I care about is to do what makes me happy and what everyone else things of it, it’s up to them.

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  • Nina Jegorov

    Thank you, Tati for these posts and your website overall. I`m sending towards you positive emotions that are coming from my heart.
    I can relate to many points that you wrote about. And now everything just fell into right places… What a wonderful feeling!
    Thank you!

    • http://www.lovingfit.com/ Tatianna

      Thank you sweetheart <3